When you adopt a child through closed adoption, you will not have any information about the parents of the infant your are adopting. You will not be so sure about yourself if you were adopted and you don’t know anything about where you came from.
Adoptive children who have no idea who their real parents are will have some kind of void within them that makes it difficult for them to feel grounded to the present. They are eaten up inside by questions of their origin and belongingness and they get uneasy with the home and family that they are now living with.
If a child knows where he came from, he will be better equipped at making healthy decisions about where he wishes to go because he has a better understanding and sense of self identity. There is also less guilt for the birth parents realizing that they were able to help the child have a good life which they could not have provided. The truth is that self actualization has really nothing to do with ancestry.
With open domestic adoption, there is on-going access to information. Because there is access of information, a child will actually find out why he was given out for adoption instead of being haunted with from wondering with incomplete information.
In closed adoption, adoptive parents tend to be distrustful of the birth parents because they are unable to properly know or understand the people that they are. Because of the secrecy and lack of communication, adoptive parents will tend to be afraid that the birth parents will try to contact their child and shatter whatever protection they have build so carefully.
In open adoption, it is also possible to build a healthy relationship with the birth parents and so there will be less chances of feeling undue insecurity on the child and the adoptive parents. Because everything is in the open, there will be no fear of accidental slip ups or shocking life, changing information regarding the adoption.
If there is open adoption and the child is brought in for medical emergencies, the birth parents can be a source of compatible organs or as blood donors. If you have prompt access to people who share the same DNA, it can come in very handy in such moments. Information regarding health issues or familial medical history being readily available is what may be the difference between life and death.
When children know that they were not abandoned, just loved enough to have been carefully chosen a better home for, they are definitely more likely to develop a concrete sense of personal familial security that leads to high levels of self confidence.
It is such a great benefit to have two sets of parents that love you and that you can love.